*Ahem*
You know, when I say that I never knew a time in my life when I didn't have post-nasal drip, I'm not making that up, it goes to my earliest memories, when I thought it was just a part of the normal human condition and everybody always had gunk like that at the back of their throats. At this point, however, I no longer find it amusing, not at all. Let the torch be passed to a new generation of hackers and throat clearers.
So, I'm here at work again, turns out to be the best place to blog from, which so many of you already knew, but since I would never log into my site here, the email thing is quite handy. And pretty, too, since my emails type in purple. I'll have to check when I get home and see what they look like on the actual diary.
Oh, a special request. I got a comment from someone yesterday, a fellow -- or sister, more likely -- Crohnie, like me, and I need more, more! If that commenter would be kind enough to email me at oldewoman at gmail.com, I have soooo many more questions. I don't think I even wrote about my upcoming dilemna regarding the injectible meds -- did I? -- but I am in fact in the throes of making that decision, and writing to someone who's done it would be a huge help.
Okay, another story about my moody kid. Much like when she was a very little person, it turns out that her working days -- preschool days, then -- are better than her days off. It took me a while to realize when she was little that she needed the structure of preschool, and on weekends and vacations, she was too much at loose ends and couldn't structure her own time and then she was cranky. I don't think that's the problem now, as such, but she was cranky all weekend, and then again yesterday, came home from work smiling, and tired, and sweet. She may actually have another date tonight, which would be a wonder and a wonderful thing, so let me tell you the absolutely insane thing I did over the weekend:
I signed up at J*Date.
Sort of.
She has tried match*com, with mixed results, and so I have suggested J*Date to her, and she says she's not what the people who sign up there are looking for. She says they are looking for a Jewish wife, and since she says she is technically not really Jewish, or at least, not the kind of Jewish wife they're looking for, she won't do it. So I had to see for myself. Now, there's nothing in the profile that lets you check off "Jewish mother/Italian-Irish father", but you do get to indicate that you are not a practicing Jew, that you never go to synagogue or celebrate anything; you can even indicate if you're not Jewish but thinking about converting.
Now that I know it's fine for her, I haven't said anything yet, pending the possibility of a real date later, but what I didn't expect was to get results. This is weird, and not un-creepy. Of course, I gave no names, and gave my own email address to sign up, and did the free trial thing, but I'm starting to get some mail from interested parties. Eeeww. Because these are twenty-something guys, and I used my real zipcode to see if there were a number of possibilities in the area, and now I'm living in fear that I'm going to recognize one of these guys as a former student. Eeeeeeewwwww. So I'll have to go in later and cancel the whole thing; I found out what I wanted to know, and then try to convince her again. Hey, for all she knows, her high school crush could turn up there one of these days, not that that's likely.
(P.S. She is, of course, technically Jewish, as all children of Jewish mothers are, that's the Jewish definition of who's Jewish. What she means, I think, is that she is no Jewish mother's idea of what a Jewish daughter-in-law is, but clearly, that's not true either, because the SnL is Jewish and had a Bar Mitzvah even, and still fits in with our fine family tradition of all the men being anti-organize religion atheists. If I had wanted a Jewish son in law, he would technically meet the requirement, but wouldn't in day to day life. That's what she means she's not. She couldn't keep a Jewish household, as such, but then, neither could I.)
It's incredibly quiet here in the library today (not the usual state of affairs), and of normal temperature, which stands to reason because I'm wearing a really heavy fleece today and I even brought in a shawl, so I'm shvitzing. (A fleece shawl from QVC, not an Aunt Becky handmade lace-shawl circa 1934. I can't imagine when I would wear one of those.) And drinking hot tea for my throat, too.
One adjustment I need to make for emailed posts is that I can't add the little endpiece I've used for a long time. I could tell you what book I'm currently reading -- nothing at the moment -- but not what I'm watching, since I'm in school, and I don't know what number entry it is anymore, and I don't know if I can put a happy face in, but I may try it with the mail emoticons and see what happens. I'll have to be creative, I guess.
Period: End of 2, bell is ringing.
Drinking: Rooibos tea, lukewarm
Not what a Jewish mother is looking for in a daughter-in-law? I know whereof I speak, and not just because I have a Catholic daughter-in-law.
ReplyDeleteWay back, when I was a kid, a cousin of ours had two sons. One married a traditional Jewish girl, and one married the Italian girl next door. Mama was beside herself, of course; there was so much talk that even I knew about it. But after a couple of years, guess which daughter-in-law was the favorite. It has less to do with their religion and more to do with who was a nice person.
Just a generation ago, my brother married a girl who was considered Jewish only by her gentile relatives. She was a fine daughter-in-law, better than her successor. All a mother really wants is that her children be happy. (I'm sure you've said that as well, but it bears repeating.)
I'm not the right half Jewish. Which I have always seen as unfortunate because I still haven't found somewhere where I really belong. I'm not Jewish, though I was saddled with a Jewish last name (and mocked for it too, in some of my schools). But then I'm not Christian, even though I am baptized, because of my Jewish last name. It seems in many areas of my life, I straddle the fence, and it's a lonely place to be.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is like yours -- this week is hell because she's only got school to go to; swim lessons are on a break till after the New Year. She's so much better behaved when she has one thing scheduled almost every day. The structure seems good for her.
I do understand her feelings about J*date. The 'hook', the lead-in IS about being Jewish and she doesn't want any complications or have to explain her Jewish cred (or lack thereof). Dating is difficult enough.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, you probably remember when I was seeing Crazy Tad and was fretting about being a shiksa and you told me I was nothing of the sort. I relayed your comment to him and he agreed. Despite his being a pious, practicing (though non-kosher eating) Jew, he said my overall 'Jew-witch-ness' would pass muster with his family. So any guy short of being full-blown orthodox would probably be fine with K and her cultural rather than temple-going Jewish background. ~LA